February 7, 2012 in Etiquette
Did that title catch your eye? You wouldn’t try to make anyone feel badly on purpose, would you? Of course not.
Despite television shows like Revenge and the countless reality tv shows – we all know that is just dramatic, extreme behavior, don’t we?
And yet, just a tiny oversight on your part might hurt someone’s feelings.
How can we prevent that?
1. Spell names correctly. This happens all the time and could be avoided by just paying attention. My name is Patti. It is not Patty, Pattie, Pattey or Pat. Simple, right?
2. Return phone calls within 48 hours. The norm is usually 24 hours, but I understand everyone is busy. Return calls within 2 days.
3. RSVP promptly. I cannot stress this enough. Do not wait for a better invitation. Doing so might just get you kicked off the guest list permanently. Allow your hosts to plan for a perfect time for you by letting them know whether or not you are attending. If you don’t, you cannot be upset when no one responds to the invitation to your next gala.
3. Send thank you notes out in a timely manner. Did a friend have you over for dinner? Send out that thank you note the next morning. Always keep a stash of note cards and stamps on your desk. I have had people tell me they were totally put out when they had to mail something because they had to go out and buy stamps? What? Is this your only inconvenience in life? Then you have it pretty good, my friend. Did you know that you can purchase a book of stamps from the cashier at the grocery store or online from USPS? Yes, sir. Now you have no excuse.
4. Be on time. Really. I live in Atlanta where traffic can be murderific. But with careful planning, there are very few times you need to be late. Being late tells the people waiting for you that your time is more important than theirs. You would never feel that way, would you?